VHDL versus Verilog has the appearance of a religious war - people do get very attached.
Many commercial tools are mixed-language - the Xilinx tools work with either.
I work in Bristol, and all the local startups and at least some of the larger outfits use Verilog. Larger companies might well use VHDL for some projects, certainly they used to.
If you think in bits and bytes, Verilog is going to be easier. If you like strongly typed languages like Java, Ada or Pascal then VHDL might appeal more.
I believe the difference is about whether you hope to get correct designs sooner with enforced disciplines or with low-level expressivity. My opinion: in a very small team, with highly skilled practitioners, a higher level approach might win, but in normal circumstances a low-level language is easier to make progress with.
The evidence(*) is that Verilog takes less effort to 'finish' - I think the only legitimate doubt would be whether a VHDL project which finishes later has fewer residual bugs.
(*) See
Bill Fuch's 1995 paper and some of
John Cooley's commentary